Dear Sarah,
I met this girl about six months ago; we went on dates quite a few times and hung out a lot. Falling in love with her was very easy. The connection was totally there, or at least that’s what I thought. One day I confronted her about my feelings and she told me she was attracted to my roommate. I was shocked and heartbroken. As if it couldn’t get any worse, recently, I woke up and saw that they were sleeping in his bed. It was an awful feeling and something I wish I could forget. Slowly I am healing, but I have to see them all the time and it hurts knowing they sleep together. Do you have any advice to help ease the pain?
~ Heartbroken in Hawthorne
Dear Heartbroken,
I am so very sorry you have to go through this. Unfortunately, this is something I am all too familiar with in. You see, the boy I gave my virginity to was cheating on me most of the relationship. The day I found out, it was as if my spirit died. Many years later I realize that life is full of these tough challenges which make us who we are. This could be a test, a sign from the Universe showing you how strong you are—not to mention, the fact that she’s a bitch and you’re better off without her. Either way you look at it, life goes on. As cheesy as this is, I’m still going to say it, “there are plenty of fish in the sea.” The world is filled with cool and beautiful girls; just hoping a nice guy will come along and sweep them off their feet. I know, dating can be so challenging, especially in L.A. I recommend taking it slow. Start by going to the gym, jogging in a park, and getting fit. Confidence goes a long way. Plus, these are excellent places to meet self-assured girls. Remember not to act too eager or aggressive; it’s a turnoff to girls. Just relax and be yourself. Smile and be a complete gentlemen and you should have no problem charming the ladies. On another note, unless you can move out you’re stuck with your roommate and this girl so you should really let go of the anger and focus on being happy. It’s all that matters.
Dear Sarah,
I work in a local dispensary and they hired this new girl at my work about a month ago and for some reason we don’t get along. She’s abrasive, verbally abusive and just plain mean. I’ve tried confronting her but it only made it worse. I’m afraid that if I tell my boss I will be looked at as weak or unable to handle working with the staff. What should I do?
~ Puzzled in Pomona
Dear Puzzled,
Working in a dispensary can be like high school all over again. The first one I ever worked in had over a 100 strains on the menu so it needed four patient consultants (budtenders) working at the counter. These girl were ruthless, hustling for the patients that gave the best tips, nudging me when I would walk by, calling me names under their breath and throwing my receipts on the floor. It was really uncomfortable and hard to deal with. Luckily, I was able to get out of that situation and find a more compassionate work environment. It took me a little while to apply for jobs, so during the search I smiled and stuck through it. The moment I was hired by my new employer I went and told the owner, “I quit!” The manager and owners weren’t any better than the patient consultants, so it was really easy for me to not give them a two week notice. As for your situation, my best advice is to listen to your heart. Trust your instincts. You know what is best for you.
See what other job opportunities are out there. You might be surprised at what you find: higher pay, better hours and perhaps even friendlier staffs. Do not settle for less when it comes to your work. The happiest people do what they love.
Got a burning question about love, life and/or the pursuit of medicine? Ask Sarah Diesel, medical-marijuana advocate and L.A.’s Countess of Class and Cannabis. Just keep your questions short, straightforward and obscenity-free, and email them to AskSarah@freeculturemag.com.
