Dear Sarah,
I recently met this really sweet, cute guy at school and we have so much in common. The one thing we don’t have in common is music. When he picked me up for our first date he was playing country music, which I am totally not a fan of. Am I crazy to think we’re not a match made in heaven even if we can’t enjoy the same music?
~ Wondering in Woodland Hills
Dear Wondering in Woodland Hills,
It’s funny you sent me this question because a couple of weeks ago my girlfriend told me, “Sarah, you know, besides the normal stuff girls look for in a guy, you have a laundry list of things you look for: he has to medicate with cannabis as much as you do, be a vegan, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t drink . . . you’re going to have to comprise somewhere.” Stunned, I started to laugh and said, “That’s a terrible idea. I wouldn’t be happy.” I know firsthand relationships are very complex, but music is just a minute detail and you shouldn’t base your relationship on it. Instead, focus on what is really important to keep you both happy in the long run. Nevertheless, if you really can’t stand his choice of music and vice versa, you probably won’t be happy in situations like long car rides and parties at your place. Take this relationship slow, after all, you just met him and have only gone on one date so you still have time to decide if he’s “the one.”
Dear Sarah,
I am female patient who is concerned that some women are sending the wrong message in the medical cannabis community. For example, at an event or expo you’re sure to see girls in cannabis leaf pasties or just wearing green paint. As a cannabis activist who models do you consider this “medical”?
~ Female Patient in Pasadena
Dear Patient in Pasadena,
This is definitely something that I’ve had to take into consideration when posing for pictures and attending cannabis events. To me, there is a line in the sand between medical and recreational/adult use especially when it comes to females representing our community. I admit that when I first started taking pictures with cannabis some of them almost crossed that line. Since then I’ve kept in mind that not only will my father and brother see these pictures, but I am representing the medical cannabis community. Not to mention the fact that I have respect for myself. Plus, why don’t you see half-naked guys posing with cannabis plants? It’s because women don’t care to see that just as much as we don’t want to see other women walking around naked and painted with cannabis leaves or taking pictures in cannabis leaf pasties. In my opinion that is not medical. Burning Man is a more appropriate place for painted bodies to roam. Needless to say, these girls are inclusive with their message. Our cannabis community is facing such hardship from the federal government that we need to send a more professional message so they will take us seriously. There are defiantly classier and more sophisticated ways you can dress to impress.
Got a burning question about love, life and/or the pursuit of medicine? Ask Sarah Diesel, medical-marijuana advocate and L.A.’s Countess of Class and Cannabis. Just keep your questions short, straightforward and obscenity-free, and email them to AskSarah@freeculturemag.com.
